Well, of course I have to go and step in it. Yes, I am going to post a piece on Halloween and whether we should 'celebrate' it as Christians. This has the potential for strong disagreement, but I wanted to chime in with some pastoral thoughts. Let's be gracious and patient with one another on this issue- and let's make decisions with a clear conscience before God. "To his own master the servant stands or falls"- Romans 14:4. You need to know that at Four Oaks there are those who refrain from any observance of Halloween (including some elders) and those who dress up like fools and go to and fro seeking Laffy Taffy and snack sized Snickers bars (including me).
First, Tim Challies has a couple of great posts, with which I am in basic agreement- read them
here and
here. Also, Mohler has a helpful post on his blog
today.
I am going to make this post a defense of our family's practice of allowing our kids to dress up on Halloween and go trick or treating. I'd like to do so in a few basic points. I know that there are good arguments against what I will say- this is not going to be an in depth treatise on trick or treating. Just some points that I wanted to put before you so that you might be assured that as your pastor I try and do all things (especially things that have the potential for division and disagreement like this) with biblical warrant and a clear conscience (as opposed to doing things because the neighbors are doing it, or because this kids like to dress up, or because a night of free candy is hard to pass up- all of these are reasons, just not the BEST reasons).
1. First, the biblical justification. Remember that as believers we are called to be in the world and not of it. This takes great wisdom, biblical faithfulness, and accountability. We must not shirk our duty in either part of this calling. But, I'm afraid that many Christians fall into extremes in either side. There are those who are so concerned with contamination from the world (which is a very serious and real concern) that they separate and distinguish themselves from the world and so are able to make very little impact for the gospel. They are indeed 'aliens and strangers', yet are unable to be a 'friend of sinners' like our Savior. Then there are those who blindly conform to the patterns of sin and worldliness around us with little thought as to the compromises they are making biblically and how it is harming themselves and those around them. Some do so under a 'missional' label, and others with little 'biblical' or 'spiritual' justification at all. The challenge to godly followers of Jesus is to fall into neither of these camps. I believe that it is possible to engage with the world on this day with biblical faithfulness.
In 1 Cor. 10 the Apostle speaks of engaging with pagans around the table set with food sacrificed to idols. We sometimes under emphasize how scandalous this was in that day. Paul instructs us to walk according to our conscience before God for the sake of the unbeliever. If your conscience will not allow you to eat with the unbeliever because the meat was sacrificed to idols, then don't do it. If your conscience allows you to eat with them, then do so (so that you might win the lost). Be careful of their conscience as well. If they say, "Let's enjoy this feast in honor of Aphrodite!". Then don't eat- your conscience and his have been bound. In such a case though, your willingness to walk wisely in these matters will most likely present an opportunity to share with the unbeliever your convictions and concerns as a Christian.
The trick or treat parallel here is fairly obvious. If you can in good conscience have your kids dress up and walk around the neighborhood knocking on doors, meeting neighbors, and getting treats, then do so. If your conscience is burdened, because of your past, or your concern for your kids, or your disgust with the worldliness of the event- then don't do it. Tori and I have decided that the concerns about halloween's origins, and the secularism of the day don't outweigh our desire to have our light on and door open for the neighbors, talk to their kids, walk with them up and down the street, and just having fun with our kids carving pumpkins and dressing up. Now, if we felt that there was an unhealthy bent in our children toward the 'darker' side of this day, or that they were being affected negatively by it, then we would curb our observance.
2. There is a theological issue here as well. We need to remember that there is nothing inherently 'evil' about a pumpkin. I like the story of Graham Jacobs (second son of Pastor John and Christy) who was told by a child in Sunday school that carving pumpkins was wicked and evil. Graham was very concerned by this idea, but kept coming back to the very logical question,
"Whassa madder wid a pun'kin?" If I thought that in any way my children's glee in carving a funny, goofy, or even scary face on a big gourd was in worship of Samhain- then there is something wrong. But, just because people used pumpkins with some evil intent, does not make having or carving a pumpkin wrong. We need to be careful of 'sacramentalizing' here. Going door to door for candy need not be inherently wrong because it has what may have been legitimately evil origins in the early celebrations of Halloween. For my kids, and most of our neighbors, it is a time to have fun. This isn't necessarily wrong. Now, again, when I see an emphasis upon the grotesque, morbid, and supernatural- I use these as teaching opportunities with my children. If we are at a neighborhood Halloween block party, and there is an emphasis on the perverse (men dressing provocatively as women, or ghouls, witches, etc.) and gruesome- then my conscience would be bound to abstain and walk away. All of this takes wisdom, boldness, and patience.
3. There is a practical reality here that Christians must be willing to entertain for the sake of the gospel. There are few opportunities in our culture where people will actually walk up to our door and meet us face to face. There are few opportunities where we can actually walk up and down the streets in our neighborhoods with those who do not know Christ- and they will do this with you willingly and won't think it weird at all. Halloween can be a great opportunity to get to know poeple. Hear me on this- I don't believe the best witness is to put
chick tracts in kid's buckets (it mostly annoying). I believe you have the opportunity to meet and enjoy some fellowship with the unbelievers God has put around you- and in a setting that THEY initiate. The 'dangers' of Halloween, for our family, do not outweigh these opportunities. Now, of course, being 'separate' on these days can be opportunities as well. It might be important to communicate your convictions by turning off the light and not answering the door. God can and does use this. But, Tori and I have decided that we would rather be overtly engaging with those around us on this night with care and wisdom rather than abstain altogether.
4. And finally a gentle admonition. Regardless of what you do according to your conscience on this day, be intentional with your kids about these things. Take time to talk with them about the real dangers of the worldliness and wickedness that is all around us. Take time to talk with them about being wise with our opportunities to meet neighbors and making friends with those who don't know Jesus. If you see a morbid fixation in your kids with ghosts, goblins, and the like- then talk with them about it. Help them look to God and His Word in these things. If you are one who is an 'abstainer'- think through again the possible opportunities this day could present. If you let your kids trick or treat- think through the dangers of worldliness and perhaps outright demonic activity and its reality in the world. Examine what sort of an impact your practice is having on your kids, and those around you.
"So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God." 1 Corinthians 10:31
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